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Pay it Forward – The Movie
As a child, Haley Joel Osment starred in the movie ‘Pay It Forward’. This is an inspirational film based on one boys’ wish to change the world and make it a better place, after his teacher gives him that chance. He learns and shares how an obligation to do a good deed for others, in response to a single good deed that’s received.
What if you decided to show an act of kindness today or a good deed for another today, or even each day? Do you think that this would make a difference to the world? Let’s take a look at that…
You’ve no doubt heard the term ‘One good turn deserves another’. But I wonder if many of us appreciate that more than this, ‘One good turn, creates another’. This is true because the principles of Appreciation and Reciprocation apply. What are these principles and how do they work?
Studies undertaken by Robert Cialdini, the Regents’ Professor Emeritus of Psychology & Marketing at Arizona State University, shared in his bestselling book ‘The Psychology of Influence’, state that we are wired to reciprocate behaviour towards us. People tend to return a favour done to them. There is no judgement in this reciprocation; it is automatic in most cases. Cialdini concludes that one of the laws of influencing human behaviour is indeed the principle of ‘Reciprocation’. What is really important is that if someone does good to us or for us, it is not as simple as saying that we just do good back to them. In fact, as a result of having good done to us, we absorb and ‘store up’ the capacity to do good within ourselves. This stored capacity of goodness is then given out to anyone and anywhere, not just to the person who did us a good deed. With this in mind, we can spread good around the world, your world, by doing good in it, allowing another and actively asking another to ‘Pay it Forward’, to pass on that good deed, in some form, to another person or persons…
If you wish to be an agent of influence for good in the world, then ‘Paying it Forward’ and utilising the principle of Reciprocation, is vital as a tool for when influencing others.
When good is done unto us, we are more inclined to do good unto us. True agents for change are hugely more proactive, using deliberate positive action to make a difference.
My Challenge to You
We can do good in a day and change lives.
How would you feel if this week I asked that you to do one of two things:
1.Recognise a good deed someone has done for you, even the smallest thing and then go out and do a good deed for three more, separate people. It can be as big or as little a deed as you like.
2.Each day, starting today, do a good deed for another and simply ask them to do nothing for you other than to pay it forward; do a good thing for someone else today.
For the remainder of November, one day at a time, let’s each ‘Pay it Forward’, because what goes around, goes around!
This November you too can send a wave of kindness through the world. By living the goodness (your TrueSelf) you can help others to experience and share their goodness. The more you do this, the more goes around. Maybe, through some invisible link a good deed comes back to you or a loved one, just when it is needed. This isn’t why you pay it forward, but it’s a lovely idea.
How many lives could you influence, for good, if you took up the November challenge today?
3 GREAT PRIZES – Just for ‘Paying it Forward’
Here at DailyStandards™ we would love to hear your stories upon taking this challenge:
What did you do?
How did you feel?
Email us about your November Challenge experience to firstname.lastname@example.org We will send a FREE copy of my Hay House book ‘The 10-Second Philosophy®’ and a copy of the ‘Pay it Forward’ movie (on DVD) to a person chosen by you, for the best 3 stories/experiences shared.
How to Pay It Forward
- “If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one.” Mother Teresa
- ‘Can for kindness’ – you can collect cans of non-perishable foods and give to a refuge or other organisations who would benefit.
- ‘Soap Saver’ – Getting a bunch of people who all travel for work and stay at lots of hotels, to donate the free soap, shampoo and conditioner towards a group that would benefit.
- ‘Book Giving’ – Collect books and distribute to needy groups (which might be in a poor country).
- ‘Charity Day’ – Sausage sizzle, selling chocolates/cakes etc. to raise money for a local charity in need.
- ‘Hospital’ – many patients have to pay for the use of the television……..perhaps you can ask the company involved to offer discounted or free TV for patients.
- Buy the train or bus ticket for the person behind you (+ give them a card)
- Donate some of your professional services to someone in need on the day – free hour consultation / etc.
- Buy a stranger a cup of coffee and leave a Pay it Forward card for them.
- On a rainy day, buy a few umbrellas and give them to those who don’t have one and are getting wet. You could attach a Pay it Forward Card to the umbrella.
- Visit your local church and ask if there is any family that might need your help.
- You may consider becoming a Pay it Forward champion and promoting the day to your local community. That way, more people of all ages are inspired to pay the kindness forward.
Look out for my top 50 easy PAY IT FORWARD opportunities next week, to continue the challenge!
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